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I am not nice, hopefully kind. I have had too many people with expectations of "nice" put on me. Or people calling me "nice" I am not comfortable with the label "nice" I think it kind of makes things about me being polite or trying to make someone feel good. When I tell someone I think they are great and they say oh you are nice...well that seems to me to sort of negate the compliment, as if I said it to be nice instead of because I really think it, instead of because they are great and I noticed. I am NOT nice. I do not say things to be nice. I do not value niceness very much. Sure it ranks above meanness or hatefullness but way way lower than Kindness and honesty and sincerity and authenticity and individuality.

Don't ask if you don't want to know. I believe that honesty is the kind thing even when it isn't the "nice thing."

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"Truth or fiction, you don't have to believe anyone's story. You don't have to form an opinion about what someone says. You don't have to express your own opinion. You don't have to agree or disagree. Just listen. The more impeccable a person is with the word, the clearer the message will be, but the words that come from another artist have nothing to do with you. You know that it's nothing personal. You listen and you understand all the words, but the words no longer affect you. You no longer judge what other people say because you understand what they are doing. They are only letting you know what is going on in their virtual world."

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